QIs it normal for my man to be so attracted to boobs that even though mine are beautiful and perfect, my boyfriend still wants to look at every other woman with a set of big boobs that he can? Aren’t mine enough? —Boyfriend Ogles Other Breasts

But your man shouldn’t be a dick about it. While it’s perfectly normal for a partnered straight guy to check out other women—just as it’s perfectly normal for a partnered straight woman to check out other men (see you at Magic Mike this weekend, ladies)—your man should be discreet. He can train himself to look without looking like he’s looking; he can learn to check out other women without ogling them. It’s not about hiding the fact that he’s looking, it’s about caring enough to take your feelings into consideration, BOOB, to say nothing of the feelings of the other women he’s checking out.

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Confidential to people who wear T-shirts: Aydian Dowling was one of the three LGBT youths whose stories were featured in the It Gets Better special on MTV and LOGO earlier this year. Like many young trans men, Aydian needs “top surgery”—chest surgery that will bring his body into line with his gender identity—and this expensive surgery isn’t covered by health insurance plans.

You can check out Aydian’s shirts at point5cctshirtcompany.com. The T-shirts are trans-themed—T-Rex!—but anyone can buy and wear them. Check ’em out!