Running into exes can be, how do I put this, really awkward. It was decided that neither of you could commit to each other so the commitment was made to go your separate ways. Seems simple enough but sticking to it can prove to be, and how do I put this, impossible at times. People are creatures of habit so not falling back into the same routine is a hard. You shared a significant amount of time with another person and whether it is realized or not, emotional attachment was made along with any number of other dependencies that were intentional or unintentional. It’s like some kind of weird wiring that fused overtime and it binds two people together. Then there are cases of faulty wiring. He cheated on me, she lies, he needs therapy, she’s crazy, he’s a deadbeat, she’s a gold digger, she needs me to take care of her, he would be lost otherwise and the list of negative aspects goes on and on and on. After all, negativity is easy. With such a list of desirable qualities it boggles my mind as to why someone would put up with such behavior. Maybe they have a lot of time to waste or maybe they like challenging projects (like raising a child but far less rewarding and more ridiculous seeing as the child is of or well above voting age). To be honest, I can’t really follow any of the logic let alone make heads or tails out of any of it. When I tried I found myself attempting to solve some kind of relationship Rubik’s Cube. That is when I decided to do some Heartbroker field research on the subject and the best place I could see fit was the bar of a thousand broken hearts and probably the best judge of character on the north side. I heard many tales and spoke to all walks of life. Across the board (no matter sexual orientation, gender, age, or relationship status) all participants had the same answer: the guy or girl they are/ were with said ‘…but I love you.’ Not just I love you, but I love you. Hmmmm… Let me try:
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I can’t say I hold anything against any of my exes. People are people and if it doesn’t work then it doesn’t work. I have run into…um, shit I am blanking here….you know, what’s-her-face on more than one occasion. Usually small talk, what are you up to now, what am I up to now sort of stuff. They only thing I can hope for is that she is happy. It is a good idea to leave it on good terms and avoid getting hit on every and all levels like the guy in this story. Hint: make sure your ex doesn’t work at the restaurant you are going to and as far as your date, you may want to check a couple things (Adam’s Apple comes to mind) before a night on the town…
