QI’m a gay man who has been seeing a devout Christian guy for one year. We have a great relationship. We have many of the same interests and respect each other’s feelings and beliefs. However, I am a Catholic who is not that religious, and he is an Orthodox Christian.
AWe’ve had all sorts of guest experts in the column over the years. Sex researchers, sex workers, medical doctors, sociologists, psychologists, academics, marriage activists, trans activists, and on and on. But this week’s guest expert is a first.
As for your relationship, DGW, Robinson agrees that your boyfriend’s inability to break from his emotionally and spiritually abusive friends is a bad sign.
He’s voiced concerns in the past about how I don’t initiate sex with him often enough. He worries that I am not attracted to him. I am attracted to him. It’s just that I don’t want the hassle of waiting for him to make me come when I can do it faster—and doing it myself means I don’t have to worry about him getting tired or bored. Our sex drives are probably around the same, frequency-wise. I just need to know where to start to make things more interesting. —Bored in Bed
