QHere is my question for you, Mr. Savage: My girlfriend and I are sexually active, and I can get an erection in the beginning, a fully hard erection, but a few minutes into intercourse, I start to lose my erection. Intercourse feels amazing, it’s just that after a while I start to lose my erection. I can get my erection back if I allow my girlfriend to use her hand on it for a while. And then when I penetrate her again, I lose my erection again. I heard you talk on TV about how a guy shouldn’t grip himself too hard when he beats off. I grab it pretty hard, I have to admit, and when my girlfriend uses her hand, I ask her to grab it really hard, too. So I am writing to ask if you think the reason I can’t keep an erection during intercourse has something to do with how hard I have her use her hand and how hard I use my hand? —Having a Real Dilemma
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Basically, HARD, you gotta cut your dick off. Um, let me rephrase that: you gotta stop serving up the kind of stimulation your dick has come to expect—the death grip—because the only way your dick will ever come to appreciate the subtler and damper sensations that vaginas provide, HARD, is if you give your dick no choice. Give your dick what it’s used to, HARD, and your dick will be forever dependent on it. Drive your dick (and yourself) to desperation, and your dick will find new ways to get off.
You can help your dick adapt faster by stirring some other forms of physical and mental stimulation into the mix. Talk dirty (your biggest sex organ is between your ears), do some nipple play (I’m talking about your nipples), and explore different scenarios that turn you on (girlfriend calls the shots? Do it outside?), all the while experimenting with different positions that might provide you with a slightly snugger fit (girl on top, doggy style, etc). Good luck!
So the problem here, SCROTE, isn’t ball pain, it’s muscle strain. And there is something you can do about that.
Good luck!
