Q OK, I need a kick in the face or something. My boyfriend of two years and I broke up a little more than a week ago. He cheated. But there’s a bit more to the story: He was a raging alcoholic, and I’ve broken up with him a few times. One of those times—when he was at our place and supposed to be packing his things and be gone by morning—I kind of rebounded off of some guy, had sex with him, then came home later the next day and found out that my boyfriend was still at my place. We talked and got back together. Later on, he found out about the rebound sex I had, and I think that’s why he cheated. We weren’t a healthy couple, all in all.
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AIf you’ve ruled out getting back together with this guy because he’s a raging alcoholic, COO, that’s fine. If you’re not getting back together with him because this relationship generates way too much conflict and drama, COO, that’s also fine. But if you’re not getting back together with this guy—a guy you have strong feelings for—because he cheated on you, well, that’s just retarded.
If that’s what you want. And you know what? It sounds like that’s what you want.
I wouldn’t tolerate a dude who behaved the way your girlfriend does—or advise a woman to tolerate one—so there’s no sexist double standard on my end. And so long as you’re not ripping farts in front of her friends or chewing with your mouth open, there’s no double standard on your end either, GO. Fact is, your girlfriend is a pig and a slob, and she’d be a pig and a slob even if she had a cock and balls.
You don’t know what to make of this? It’s a compliment, WTF, and you should take it as one.
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