QI met this girl on an “adult” Web site, and we’re supposed to meet. We first exchanged a few e-mails on the service, and then we got each other’s screen names. Then we chatted over IM twice, just the basic small talk, before exchanging numbers. It was on the phone that she told me about her rape fantasy: she’s always fantasized about being kidnapped by a stranger from a public place like the grocery store, held in a dark room over the weekend, and forced to do whatever her captor wants.
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AI’m tempted to advise you—and others with similar fantasies (not all of them men, not all of them straight)—to google “Oliver Jovanovic” and then move on to the next question. But there’s the digital divide to consider: not all the aspiring rape fetishists out there have access to the Interwebs. So a brief recap for you Luddites:
Oliver Jovanovic was a graduate student at Columbia University when he met a woman named Jamie Rzucek in an Internet chat room back in 1996. The two bonded over a shared interest in S and M, and they met up for an evening of consensual sex that included bondage and torture. After it was all over, Rzucek went to the police, and Jovanovic was arrested, prosecuted, found guilty, and given 15 years to life. He spent almost two years in prison—during which time he was brutally assaulted and nearly killed—before he was released on appeal and, ultimately, kinda sorta exonerated.
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Thanks for your work otherwise. —Cacilda Jethá, MD
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