QMy girlfriend and I have been on and off for almost two years. I took her back after she cheated on me. The only thing now is that she wants to have a threesome. I am really not down with sharing her, but I am willing to do it because otherwise some other girl will do it for her. I told her that I want to be stoned when it happens, because I don’t think I can handle it sober. She got mad because she doesn’t like drugs. Then what am I supposed to do? —Lesbian With One Real Dilemma
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Here’s the question you should be asking yourself: do you want this woman in your life badly enough to overcome your aversion to sharing? Agreeing to a three-way—so long as you’re baked—doesn’t count. A three-way involving a woman, her reluctant, resentful, self-medicating girlfriend, and some innocent bystander is unlikely to (1) be very much fun for anyone involved (particularly your unlucky third) or (2) put an end to your girlfriend’s desire for share time.
Your girlfriend is seeking to fold her desire to sleep with other women into the structure of your relationship: three-ways now, perhaps some degree of openness later. She gets points for being honest this time, but she loses points for being manipulative and controlling. (Fresh pussy for her, no pot for you? Please.) And if this three-way is a disaster and you refuse to have others—which may be the outcome you’re subconsciously hoping for—I predict that your girlfriend will just go back to cheating on you.
AIf the male protagonist in A Melon for Ecstasy is having sexual intercourse with lady-trees—”feminized” trees—then the male protagonist is a true-blue, red-blooded, lady-tree-fucking straight boy, RF.
QYour response to SHEESH belittles the rights of submissive men (myself included). Maybe this particular sub had a bit of an obsession with hygiene, and his mistress (let’s not forget who is the employee here) asked him to leave out of self-righteous pettiness. However, it doesn’t even matter what actually happened because you have empowered dominant women to demand more and give less. —Unsatisfied Male Sub
After the recent legal/press issues that NYC pros have had to deal with, it was great to see someone have our back in print. First Barack Obama gets elected, and now Dan Savage shows pro Doms some love: Things are looking up! —Anonymous Whip-Toting Flog-meister
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