To make a long and stupid story short, I met a guy on Craigslist who said all the right things. We had plans to meet a few times (once I bought a train ticket to visit him; another time I prepared an expensive meal) but he always canceled at the last minute.
Should I launch my own campaign against him? I’ve already reached out to a few girls who have been glad to hear the real story. Part of me wants revenge, but another part of me just wants to wash my hands of the whole situation. Also, I’m worried that the embarrassing photos I sent him will end up online somewhere. He told some people he wants to start a Web site exposing his “triumphs.” –Truth and Consequences
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The only way to protect yourself from liars and flakes and Nigerian scam artists trolling Web sites like Craigslist, TAC, is to insist on meeting in person early on, and to brook no excuses–particularly idiotic ones like “anxiety.” Anyone who talks a good game in a chat room or via e-mail but can’t meet in person is either married or something other than he or she claims to be. The number of straight men pretending to be teenage lesbians alone exceeds the actual number of teenage lesbians by a factor of 100.
I don’t want to sleep with anyone else. It’s just that I’m lonely as all hell. Any advice? –Alone for Now
My husband and I run a club in Aloha, Oregon, that is much like a swingers club. We call ourselves “neosexuals,” the difference being that soft swap, full swap, no swap, and anything in between is acceptable behavior in our group. We only demand consent, honesty, good communication skills, and safe practice. We’re a very popular group, as there are many more couples looking for light, flirty fun than for hard-core swinging action. Check us out at venusrendezvous.com. –Gabrielle & Chris Thanks for sharing, G & C.
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