QI’m a 38-year-old straight male in a long-term relationship. We have two children, still quite young. I am not sure what killed the intimacy of our relationship, but my spouse and I have been physically disconnected for years. This led to some rather sleazy adulterous behavior on my part. We recently discussed the topic at length (at which time I informed her of my indiscretions); we have decided to remain together for our children because we work well together as parents and we are pretty good friends. We have also decided to “open” our relationship.
OK, so…
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You’re looking for a companion of the opposite sex, a friend and lover, someone who understands you’re committed to staying in your marriage for the sake of the kids, someone you know to be responsible and trustworthy, someone who gets the whole open relationship concept…
Once she understands that love and commitment, and not sexual exclusivity, is the important bond that you two share she may be able to forgive you, really forgive you, for all your pre-open-marriage sleazy adulterous behavior. And you may be able to restore your sexual connection, even if you never become completely sexually exclusive again.
“There’s just no way your reader is going to find an Indian willing to put on a loincloth for sexual purposes,” says Alexie. “Unless that Indian is a seriously damaged, culturally disconnected, politically unaware, and unsafe-sex-practicing slut.”
A“Though it’s not exactly a bodily function, the back spasm is the opposite of an orgasm,” says Alexie.
