My wife of 5 years, mate of 11 years, and mother of our two kids has dropped a bomb on me: she thinks she’s a lesbian.
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So my question, Dan, is this: I’m hoping that she’ll tell me that this is a phase. I’m hoping that she’ll experiment with being a lesbian and realize that she wants me back. I’m trying to hold on to something because this is just surreal. I’m in shock. What the fuck am I gonna do? Help me. I’m falling apart. No witty acronym. Just sign me . . . –FUCKED
“The writer is in shock,” says Amity Pierce Buxton, “like most men and women whose wives or husbands announce they are gay or have same-gender attractions.” Buxton is the author of The Other Side of the Closet: The Coming-Out Crisis for Straight Spouses and Families and the executive director of the Straight Spouse Network (SSN), an organization that provides support, info, and resources to straights in your shoes, FUCKED.
In other lesbian news, the publisher and editor of Venus, a magazine for African-American gays and lesbians, recently came out as an ex-lesbian, splashing the news all over the cover of the most recent–and presumably final–issue of Venus (“Redeemed! 10 Ways to Get Out of ‘The Life’ if You Want Out!”). Charlene E. Cothran has found Jesus, and we’re encouraged to conclude that she no longer has any desire to bury her stupid face in Halle Berry’s smokin’-hot crotch.
Charlene: Nothing. . . . My prayer was not fix me, repair me, and make me straight–that was not my prayer. My prayer was God make me whole in every sense of the word.
Are you still attracted to women or is that attraction completely gone?
