Gentle readers, I regard this column as a sacred calling, and I would never intentionally do anything to cause you to question my judgment. Sound judgment, after all, is the professional advice columnist’s most precious commodity. But every once in a while some do-gooder gets me shit-faced, and the next thing I know I’m raising money for some dumb-ass charity by auctioning off the right to give advice in this space. And guess what? It’s happened again. (This week’s column is feeding the homeless–you know, in addition to clothing them.)
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I hope you post this note as a warning. I recommend that everybody stay away from Craigslist. When I started looking at the personals on the site I was fascinated (there are some real freaks out there), but I was also looking for pictures with bare female flesh. After I exhausted the pages for cities in the U.S., I started looking at ads posted in other countries. That’s when I noticed that the same hot babe in Finland had posted the same picture in six different U.S. states and four different countries.
She wasn’t the only one posting the same ad in many different places. When I realized that all these offers for NSA sex were scams, I lost interest in even looking at the pictures. Your readers should know that hot anonymous sex is unlikely to occur–at least through Craigslist–and focus their efforts elsewhere. –Don’t Be Fooled
I’m sure you’ve answered a question like this before (or have refused to answer on principle), but where can you find down-to-earth, laid-back gay men? I’m trying to avoid the online dating thing because it’s not really romantic, but trying to meet guys in a large room with a remix of a remix bouncing in the background isn’t working either. –Little or No Effort
MARLA: It’s a commonly cited statistic that 70 percent of women don’t orgasm from intercourse alone, so one question is whether your husband and previous sex partners have provided you with enough clitoral stimulation with their hands, mouths, toys, etc, for you to orgasm. If you’ve only masturbated a few times you haven’t given yourself much clitoral stimulation either.
