Q My boyfriend and I are straight college students, and he’s always wanting to try new things. Recently he asked to put a finger in my ass while we were having sex. Someone did that to me before, but it felt uncomfortable and it kinda hurt. I told my boyfriend that he could do it once and then I’d decide whether to let it continue. So we tried it. It still felt uncomfortable and still kinda hurt. But I never came so hard in my life!
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So here’s what you’re gonna do, POOTER: you’re gonna breathe deep, you’re gonna take things slow, you’re gonna use more lube, and you’re gonna spend more time warming up the outside of your butt before anything goes in. (Tell the boyfriend he can finger your butt for ten minutes after he rims it for 20.) Do it right, and pretty soon you won’t be able to look at those ten fingers of his without thinking about the kick-ass, anal-enhanced orgasms you’ll be having when you can only see nine.
Q I’m a 30-year-old woman with a strange problem. I recently started lifting weights, and every time I use the arm machines, I have an orgasm. It’s not obvious to anyone else (I don’t think), and my sex life is great outside of the gym. I don’t know if I should stop using the machines, because it’s rude and kind of weird to have that happening, but it just seems to be a physical reaction to using those muscles. What should I do? —Fitness Freaking
And when you’re enjoying sex without penistration—when someone is eating your pussy or fingering your pussy—give that person direction, i.e., put your hand over his hand, place a hand on the back of her head, and show them just how to touch you and/or eat you to create the sensations that are intense or focused enough to get you off.
So my question: What would Dan do? What would Dan do if he were mind cheating constantly and experiencing intense feelings of attraction to someone else?!? —What Would Dan Do?
A Porn isn’t cheating, NOPE—but let’s not argue about that.