Q I just turned 20 and have been out of the closet for a year. A lesbian friend wants to hook me up with her gay friend, let’s call him Kyle, a cute, fit boy who runs track and does theater. The issue is, he’s just 17 and starting his senior year in high school, while I’m entering my junior year in college. The age of consent where we live is 16. I realize the age difference isn’t that big, but he is technically still a minor. I’m only mildly experienced (I’ve had just one boyfriend), and I’d like to think I’m a nice guy. Also, the gay pickings are rather slim around here.
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A Meet the boy. If you hit it off, MINOR, it would be a shame if you didn’t allow Kyle to benefit from your wisdom, experience, and cock just because he wasn’t born 12 months earlier. And if you start going steady—which is what kids used to do before hooking up ruined everything—and he’s out to his family, I would urge you to meet his parents. They might not be entirely comfortable with their son’s sexuality, and meeting the college boy who’s boning their son might be awkward. But if you go out of your way to reassure them about your intentions toward their son—above and beyond boning—they may feel a bit more at ease about the relationship.
Q I’m 35, gay, and in a six-year relationship. My husband—not really, here in Tennessee, but I call him that anyway—is 38, and we have a great relationship. We have been monogamous up till now but are open to inviting select others into our bed. This was prompted by a friend we recently made whom we both find attractive and who has expressed an interest in us both. He is 24, cute, and just starting out in Gaydom. We don’t expect anything long-term, just a nice mellow friends-with-benefits scenario.
I thought I’d be able to open myself up to both of them, but for some reason I can’t seem to feel love for them both at the same time. I’ve always seen myself as a strict-monogamy kind of guy. I thought a three-way would be fun, but when I’m with two guys, I feel like I’m just a piece of meat. I’m probably not making much sense, but I’d like some advice, if you could, please. I feel inadequate because I can’t feel comfortable in this relationship. —Feel Like a Prude
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