Q I read your column every week, mostly out of abstract interest. My thoughts reading your advice are usually some variation on “Wow, that’s a lot of work to do just to have a sex life.” So after reading you, I came to the conclusion that I was asexual. I liked this conclusion, as it was a sexual identity that made sense for me.
A It should come as no shock to someone who reads my column every week—or any other advice column—that there are lots of people out there who want to be in relationships but don’t particularly want to have sex. We don’t usually hear directly from these “minimally sexual” types. Instead, we hear from their maximally unhappy partners, i.e., the “normally sexual persons” who find themselves unhappily married to and/or otherwise stuck with minimally sexual persons.
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A I’m too unstable in the coming-out process to date someone who’s also just coming out,” is a baby-dyke variation on “I’m just not ready for a relationship right now.” Unfortunately, CWJBF, not everyone on the receiving end of that white lie is smart enough to realize that their white liar actually means “I’m not interested in being in a relationship with you and I never will be.”
Anyway, I’m looking forward to coming back to your campus—the Savage Love Live event/shoot is being rescheduled and may take place this week—and when I return, I’d really like to meet the person responsible for some graffiti I spotted in the men’s room at the Cornerstone: DON’T RAW DOG A RANDOM.
