QI hope you can help me. I am a 39-year-old divorced mother of four. I’m also a grandmother. I’ve started seeing a younger man, age 25, who is only a few years older than my oldest kid. We hit it off great and other than the sex, everything is beautiful. The problem is that my sex life with my ex-husband of 20 years was very free. We did everything from toys to bondage to watching porn together to three-ways.
Now you, Grandma Hoses, are going to have to undo the damage done. You will have to “school” him, as the young people were recently saying. Sit the boy down and tell him that you’re older, wiser, and more experienced, and that you intend to drag his butt up to your level, not allow him to drag yours down to his. Tell him exactly what you like, tell him exactly how you like it, and make sure he understands that you’re not interested in being with someone long-term who isn’t interested in meeting your needs.
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PS: They hear us go at it ALL the time. I should’ve seen this coming!
A“It is a little controversial whether fibromyalgia is a real disease at all or just a mysterious constellation of symptoms,” says Dr. Barak Gaster, Savage Love’s long-suffering resident medical expert. “Most mainstream doctors accept it as real, but it’s still in the slightly dubious category.”
You do a wonderful job of humorously and intelligently dissecting the psychosexual conundrums of those who write to you. We worry, however, that your readers will miss your point and take away from your column that bestiality is acceptable when it is done behind “tall fences.” —Colleen O’Brien, Director of Communications, PETA
