Q My wife and I have been married for a few years and are expecting our first child. I’m really into the idea of being sprayed with my wife’s breast milk. The other night she was fretting about when her boobs are going to start leaking. This seemed like a good time to bring it up, so I told her about my newly discovered lactation fetish. She freaked out—her comments were along the lines of “Gross!” and “That’s not what that’s for!” This is something I’d really like to explore, but I don’t know how to reapproach the subject. —Man Into Lactation Kink
“Before I had a baby,” said a new mother I shared your letter with, “I would’ve had the same reaction—gross! I would’ve wondered if my husband had unresolved mother issues. The idea of sexualizing a bodily secretion that’s designed solely for my infant? That seems a bit taboo. But now that I’ve had a baby, my reaction would be somewhat different.”
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Office affairs can get messy—but the messes are likelier when the romantic stakes are high. There are no romantic stakes here, IBS, and as long as you’re both mature enough to separate your work relationship from your strap-on relationship, I don’t see why you shouldn’t satisfy your curiosity, theirs, and mine. (I’m curious what their height has to do with anything.)
Q I’m a 23-year-old male who’s bi-curious/pan-curious/postgender-curious. I’ve recently found myself attracted to penises, but I don’t feel like I’m attracted to any specific men. If you showed me a cropped shot of a hard cock, I’d get aroused. If you showed me a picture of the whole guy, no arousal. Many of my friends are very into the postgender/postmodern cultural-studies mind-set. In college, a time in my life when I felt no arousal looking at male genitalia, they mocked me for considering myself straight. I’m wondering if the disconnect of attraction toward the male sex organ but not men is the product of simply training myself to break down the assumed straightness I’ve spent most of my life living. I’m fairly picky, but I meet many women I’m attracted to. I really like the general idea of having sex with a guy, just not any specific one. Am I just trying to be a sexual tourist? Am I valuing queerness for the sake of it? Maybe my trepidation toward sex with a man is from the general societal constraints put on male-on-male loving? —Cock Observer Laments Disconnect
