QI’m a 34-year-old straight, single female. I have a fantasy I can’t find much about online, so I figured I’d ask you for advice.
And your fantasy is totally realizable—I’ve seen very similar ones realized once or twice—but the only way to do it safely is with a couple of trusted friends hovering nearby. You need someone there who’s making sure that men who take advantage of you in your bent-over-and-blindfolded state have condoms on and don’t attempt to do anything other than what you’ve consented to.
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PS: I should probably add that I’m a submissive. Not that I’m looking to be emotionally dominated or anything, but being tied up in a corner and only speaking when Mistress tells me it’s OK sounds pretty awesome.
A Um . . . nope. Though it would probably be for the best if the guys who’ve posted YouTube videos of themselves putting Bengay on their balls were all sterile.
Q Your advice for Seriously Troubled Here, the MARRIED MAN whose WIFE made out with another man (who she CLAIMS was gay) was the kind of knee-jerk anti-male bullshit and anti-male bias that straight men have come to expect from therapists, advice columnists, and “sex experts.” She gets drunk and flirts with other men and MAKES OUT WITH THEM, and he’s the douchebag?
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