Q I love reading your column and never thought that I would have a reason to write to you, but to my pleasure and chagrin, I realized today that I could use your help.
“While receiving a blowjob,” says Urban Dictionary, “the alpha male peaks to orgasm—while the male is in the midst of ejaculation, or cumming, the female continues the act of oral sex without removing her lips and/or mouth from the alpha males penis—thus, causing the male to cum inside the females mouth, and possibly down her throat while she is still sucking the males penis.”
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But even so, FC, your boyfriend has to recognize the above-and-beyond nature of the request he’s making. He’s getting head—good, enthusiastic head, too. And there you are, only too happy to swallow—even if your true motive is to dispose of his semen as quickly as possible. It seems to me that (1) your boyfriend shouldn’t push this oral creampie thing too hard and (2) you shouldn’t feel too bad if you can’t bring yourself to do this for him anytime soon.
However, he continues to have a relationship with my ex-husband. This enrages me. I felt like he sided with the ex at every turn during our separation and divorce, and now I feel like he’s incapable of understanding my feelings. I’m still friendly with my ex, although I have tremendous guilt issues over not having figured myself out before dragging him into a marriage. My dad’s point is that his friendship with my ex has nothing to do with me.
You have a right to your feelings, of course, and if your dad’s relationship with your ex makes you uncomfortable, it makes you uncomfortable. In this era of divorce, remarriage, and blended families, rest assured that you’re not the only person in the world with an ex who’s still, for better or worse, part of the family.
