Q My husband has a cuckold fetish, which we’ve indulged through two drunken threesomes with two of his best friends. The first time, he really had to talk me into it. The second time, he steered me in that direction and I took the wheel. I now have had sex alone with Friend Two a few times. My husband was OK with it at first, but now he wants it to stop. I like the control he gave me, and now I don’t want to be told no. He opened the door, and I don’t want to close it. What do I do? —Not Ready to Stop
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That’s pretty much the only way you can have both your husband and, at some point down the road, the “control he gave you”—i.e., his consent to fuck around with other men. Then you’ll be able to open the door to a threesome again, this time without a booze assist. But it might take him longer to get comfortable with the idea of you seeing other guys alone, which seems to have triggered the wrong kind of anxiety—anxiety of the non-boner-inducing variety—which is not what emotionally safe and sane cuckolding is all about.
Which he still is, right?
Q How come when I look up the history of the T-shirt on Wikipedia, there’s a picture of you? Are you aware of this? —Jewdizzle
Four years is a long time to wait, ACM—what about making things better right now? Gay, lesbian, bi, and trans activists, inspired by the IGBP, have launched the Make It Better Project. Events are planned for all over the country between now and October 11, which is National Coming Out Day, to raise awareness of the problem and to push for legislative action now, like the immediate passage of the Safe Schools Improvement Act and the Student Non-Discrimination Act. You can learn more about events in your community—and how you can help to make it better now—at makeitbetterproject.com.
