QReading you over the years has absolutely changed my mind on gay marriage. I wanted to let you know that. I also live in Maryland, and, as you know, we voted last week to allow same-sex couples to legally marry. I was excited that I got to vote for marriage equality in my home state, Dan—even I agree that it’s fucked up that people get to vote on the civil rights of LGBT people at all. Thanks for all your writing over the years—it’s really made a difference in my love and sex life. And congrats to you and all gay people in the United States for the big wins last week in Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, and Washington State. —Just Some Straight Guy
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AThere’s something I want to say about the votes—and about the voters—in Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, and Washington State. But first I want to say this to all my fellow queers: we built this. The breakthroughs we saw last week, which included the election of the first openly gay person to the United States Senate (Wisconsin’s Tammy Baldwin)—we made that. LGBT people came out, fought back, and changed the world. We have a fuck of a lot left to do—repeal DOMA, pass ENDA, unfinished business with DADT (trans people are still barred from serving), defending the rights of queers around the world—but LGBT people have made tremendous progress since Stonewall. It has gotten better for us because we came out and fought to make it better. We demanded better.
Gays and lesbians are a tiny percentage of the population. And while we laid the groundwork for the breakthroughs we saw last week in Maine, Maryland, Washington, and Minnesota—we built this—we didn’t build it on our own. The majorities in the state legislatures in Maine, Maryland, and Washington that voted to make same-sex marriage legal? Straight. The governors who signed laws making same-sex marriage legal? Straight. The overwhelming majority of people who voted in favor of marriage equality in all three states after antigay bigots forced public votes on our civil rights? Straight. The majority that voted against writing antigay bigotry into Minnesota’s state constitution? Straight. And the president who took a huge political risk and came out for marriage equality before his reelection campaign? Straight. It has gotten better for us—better, not perfect—but it hasn’t gotten better for us in a vacuum. It’s gotten better for us because straight people have gotten better about us.
QI am a twentysomething bi guy who loves sucking cock. I especially enjoy when the recipient really enjoys himself (which is often) (not to gloat) (but I just did). Anyway, my problem is that I don’t really enjoy receiving. I have received head from three guys, which I realize is not a large sample size, but every time it has been a nonevent. It’s almost like I can’t even feel a mouth on my dick. How do I fix this? —Blowjob Boredom Blues
ATry asking your boyfriend for cunnilingus, NTGM, not fellatio. If that doesn’t do the trick—if he doesn’t start eating your pussy—then DTMFA.
